Monday, January 7, 2019

Trauma

Words too harsh.
Sex, too early.
Death, too sudden.
Violence, too familiar.
Betrayal, too intimate.
Neglect, too prolonged.
Violation, too normalized.
Abuse, too often excused.
Pain, too pervasive.  
But how do we faithfully navigate the overwhelming wounds and unpredictable triggers of trauma as believers?

Jesus is our only ticket to happiness, to redemption, or to peace. As someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety for a while, this is a daily struggle for me to keep in mind. Oftentimes I find myself doubting my Lord's plan for me. But in the end we must remember, that, in the end, everything that has come to pass, is happening now, or will ever be, is for His eternal glory. And we must remember. Our trauma, our past mistakes, our current struggles, are not what defines us. Jesus died for us! We, who were all sinners, trapped in darkness, shackled by our transgressions, without hope, have been set free! No longer are we locked away like a zoo animal based upon our trauma! Instead, we are glorious warriors, marching into battle wearing the Armor of God, ready to share his Gospel of redemption, hope, and peace.

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

The Baby Thief (Memphis, 1924-1950)

November 21st, 2000. A baby boy is born in a local hospital in Memphis, Tennessee. He is taken home by his parents and is loved and cared for throughout his childhood. That baby was me. This may not seem like some incredibly astounding story, but that is the point of this article. Because in Memphis, Tennessee, from 1924-1950, a woman named Georgia Tann withheld this seemingly standard scenario from thousands of families. This is a narrative of tragedy. A nightmare swept under the rug. A largely unknown and forgotten tale to those of us lucky enough to not have been a part of it. This is a testament to those who lived to tell their stories, and a memorial to the children who would never get the chance. This is the true story of Georgia Tann. Unless otherwise specified, all information and quotations regarding Miss Tann come from Barbara Raymond’s book, “The Baby Thief.” Today, I hope to enlighten you through understanding Georgia’s World, Georgia’s Crimes, and Georgia’s Legacy.

Before we can go into the immense pain and fear caused by Georgia Tann, and the motives behind her actions, we must first understand the world she grew up in. Beulah George “Georgia” Tann was born on July 18, 1891 in Hickory, Mississippi. Even in the small-town she grew up in, the name Tann was widely known and recognized. Georgia’s father, George Tann, whom she was named after, was a federal court judge, and her mother a social butterfly and the most prominent woman in town. Georgia was expected to do, think, and say precisely as her parents did, and continue their legacy as she matured. Early on, though respected for her lineage, Georgia was not well liked. She was perceived as “arrogant, argumentative, and domineering.” She was always arguing, usually these clashes took place between her and her father. Many of said arguments stemmed from Georgia’s unusual ambitions and Mr. Tann’s discomfort over her sexual orientation. At that time, gender roles were severely scrutinized, and Georgia never conformed to the image of Southern womanhood. “She constantly appeared in public wearing flannel shirts and mens trousers. She wore her hair severely pulled back, and often had it cut as a man would. She evidenced no interest in traditional marriage.” Unlike most girls of her time, Georgia desired to pursue a career in law, while her father wanted her to become a concert pianist. She was little more than a baby when she began suffering the insults and pressure that would shape her future, as well as millions of others. Georgia wanted to run and play, her father forced her to practice piano for hours on end. She resented her father, and long despised being under his heel. It is possible that she became so preoccupied with self-protection that she grew selfish and narcissistic. She learned to never entertain the idea of empathy, which made her dangerous. It seems that Georgia, feeling robbed of choice by her hometown and family, may have used her power and influence through her private baby market to try and attain the autonomy she lost early in her life.

Unable to pursue law, and unwilling to pursue music or marriage, Georgia Tann left her hometown and pursued a career in social work, which was in its infancy at the time, in Memphis, TN. This is possibly due to her fascination with the lower class, particularly single mothers. Utterly unappreciative of ambiguity, she considered the world to be inhabited by two, widely divergent types. The poor, including the women whom she would one day take extensive advantage of, were the first group. She was contemptuous of their fertility and in private would often refer to them as “cows.” Yet I believe, whether she realized it or not, Georgia envied them for their ability to give birth, as her sexual orientation withheld that prospect from her future. The second group, the “higher type” as she called them, were considered good. These were the wealthy and prominent folks, people esteemed in their communities as her family was. Georgia argued that the poor were incapable of proper parenting, and that it was her moral obligation to rescue their children, by stealing them and placing them up for adoption. “Georgia considered poverty the worst possible condition. It was her upbringing; she was from a very snobbish family that looked down on people in those shanty houses who got their hands dirty for a living.” In her eyes, the end justified the means, leaving her undisturbed by the deaths of scores of children in her care. The city to which Georgia moved perfectly matched her needs. Ravaged and left destitute by the devastating yellow fever outbreaks of 1878, and left spineless in the aftermath by the cruel and ruthless Edward H. Crump, Memphis was the ideal target. She was blunt, assured of her right to do anything she wished, with Mayor Crump protecting her and Judge Camille Kelley handling any legal issues, she was required to make little effort to hide her crimes. “She was relentless, a cold-blooded demon, a very wicked woman. She got bigger and bigger the more power she had. She was pompous, self-important—she was like Hitler, riding around in her dreaded black Cadillac. She terrorized everyone.” Georgia seemed immune to guilt, denying any accusations of abuse, neglect, or death among any of her wards. Former adoptees from many of her children homes recalled the punishments they were subjected to as unproportionate and haunting. Punishments ranged from being beaten with belts to being hung by their wrists in closets for days at a time. Oftentimes these lead to the further verbal and sexual abuse they later experienced, both from Georgia directly as well as many of her staff, both males and females. No child was safe while under Miss Tann’s care.

According to Judge Wade S. Weatherford Jr., “Mankind is possessed of no greater urge than to try to understand the age-old question, ‘Who am I’.” Although Georgia Tann’s reign of terror ended on September 15, 1950, when she succumbed to Uterine cancer at age 59, the endurance of her legacy of secrecy has allowed her to harm many more than the thousands she directly touched. She has hurt every American adopted since. In order to ensure that the children she stole could not be traced back to their birth parents, Georgia began a trend of falsifying adoptees birth records, changing everything from the child’s age and name to their birthplace and parental information. America, which is already stingy with adoptees original records, has continued the trend of withholding all but essential health information, a fact that has outraged innumerable members of those both directly and indirectly affected by Georgia’s actions. It deprives them of their sense of connection. She continues to hurt most of the 6 million adoptees and their approximately 12 million birth parents alive today. Both adoptees and their parents lament of the family they cannot know, wishing to understand, as Judge Weatherford wisely stated, “Who am I?” The outright theft of children is relatively uncommon in the US now, compared to a time where if your child left your sight they were in severe danger of encountering one of Miss Tann’s “spotters” or her feared black Cadillac, both in Tennessee and throughout the country. Today, most of these fears and dangers exist in poor countries like Guatemala, India, Indonesia, Thailand, Cambodia, Samoa, and China, in the form of baby brokers, many of whom are “Georgia Tann Clones.” Brokers like Lauryn Galindo, who made 8 million dollars by arranging over 800 adoptions between 1997-2001 to unwitting Americans, including actress Angelina Jolie. China disclosed that it rescued over 3000 children in 2004 from baby brokers, according to the official New China News Agency, and it is estimated that these statistics are only a fraction of abductions in china, as well as in other poor countries. 

“The evil that men do lives after them…” Change the gender of the protagonist, and Shakespeare could have been anticipating the pain caused by Georgia Tann. Over the course of 26 years, she kidnapped, abused, and sold over 5,000 children throughout the United States. It is estimated that she made around 1 million-dollars, which according to DollarTimes.com, would be equal to about 13 million dollars in todays money. Because of her actions, an unknowable number of parents died without learning if their children survived through to adulthood. Many did not. From 1924-1950 Georgia Tann silently terrorized our nation with her black market baby adoption scheme. Those who knew her in her early years made comments saying how much good she could have done with her tenacity and vigor, had she applied herself to something greater. Yet for 26 years, Georgia Tann hurt everyone around her. Whether out of self-preservation or spite, empathy abandoned her, replaced instead with greed, lust, and pride.

Monday, October 29, 2018

A darkness is spreading...

“Our father brought forth, on this continent, a new nation, conceived in liberty, and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal.” More than 150 years on from Abraham Lincoln’s now immortal Gettysburg Address, America has witnessed countless people dedicated to that proposition. But in the nation that gave rise to Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, Harvey Milk, and modern incarnations like Janet Mock or Laverne Cox, tensions are rising as our country experiences wave after wave of open and flagrant acts of injustice and violence. 

On Saturday morning, a heavily armed man burst in on a Jewish religious ceremony and killed 11 people before telling a law enforcement officer "I just want to kill Jews.” The mass shooting at this Pittsburgh synagogue, the deadliest anti-Semitic attack in US history, represents a direct challenge to America's core values — that people of any race or religion are created by our Father in Heaven with the same basic and equal rights. This cannot continue in this great country we call home! Yet it has been, and I fear, will continue to be a threat to the foundational virtues of the United States of America, a fact that we, as the rising generation, need to thoughtful of.

This hateful attack wasn’t the only scare America has received recently. Numerous pipe bombs were also sent out to prominent democrats, leading to a nationwide manhunt for the man responsible. Two of the packages with explosive devices were addressed to the CNN New York bureau. Other targets of this vicious act of hate include Joe Biden, Rep. Maxine Waters, Robert De Niro, Sens. Cory Booker, Kamala Harris, and Tom Steyer. Three new suspected bombs were apprehended Friday morning in Florida, New York and California. The packages were nearly identical -- six inch PVC pipes with wires, stuffed inside a bubble-wrap lined manila envelope. Six American flag stamps were affixed to each envelope with the return address of Florida Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz's office. Officials suggest that there may be more such bombs in transit, waiting to fulfill their dark purpose. 


These, along with the, 6,121 instances of hate crime in the United States, and their 7,615 victims of persecution in 2016, show that we, as the rising leaders of this great country, must not be caught unawares. The world is changing before our eyes. Wars rage and hate persists, and as such we must be vigilant. We, the christian youth of America, must heed the call of the Holy Spirt, and go out into this dark world and share the light of Christ Jesus. Now, more than ever, our world needs hope, and Only God can give it to them. 

Monday, October 1, 2018

Chivalry is dead/ singleness is a blessing

In the culture we now live in, it's pretty sad that chivalry seems to be completely dead. Dating is done, right? Seriously, who goes on dates anymore? It's all about getting a number or snapchat and seeing how far you can get with whatever girl you find yourself around. I think its a tragedy most single guy’s don’t actually take a girl out to have any real conversation anymore.

If you take a girl out and try to show her you're more than some guy looking to just get in her bed, odds are, you're going to surprise her. Now, I may be old fashioned, but a nice dinner is worth the money to get to actually know someone.

As a guy on a student budget it can be difficult doing the whole "real dates" thing. Stuff costs money. What's the real difference though? Treat the both of you to a nice meal or have some kind of interaction outside of phones. 

The more I look around me these days, the less I see guys treating women the way that they should have been raised to. What happened to paying for dinner and dates? What happened to getting her chair for her and holding the door? Where did we lose that touch of chivalry? When did it become the norm to just text or snapchat a girl, and expect her to cater to your every whim?

I think we've lost our ability to communicate. We don't take the time to actually get to know someone anymore. This is why we see marriages and relationships in general failing at a 50% rate. Men no longer feel the need to get flowers, chocolates, etc...and if we do, we come off as stage-five wack-jobs and cligy weirdos.

If he takes you out to a nice dinner, it's because he’s a nice guy, and is looking forward to spending time with you somewhere other than your phone. Men are getting away with putting in bare minimum effort and receiving surface level relationships or hooking up on a whim.

Yet, even outside or the relationship pool, we, as men, have forgotten our place. For a lot of guys, dating has become a recreational sport, a game of comparing scores and numbers, instead of enjoying your company and making memories that will last a lifetime. C.S. Lewis said, “God would not have anyone waiting unless he saw it was good for them to wait." You're not waiting on accident. Your singleness is not God’s way of depriving you; it’s God’s way of changing you. 

As a single person you probably a lot of free time. At the moment, more than you will have in any other season of your life. The last thing you should do with it is waste it. Instead, use it wisely by spending intentional time in Scripture and prayer, serving your Church and community, growing in your career, learning new trades, reading books, building healthy friendships, and potentially serving in missions fields. Grow in your faith, work on making yourself the best you you can be for “Mrs Right.” God will do the rest.

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven” (Ecc. 3:1)

We forget this often and often we need to be reminded of it daily. God knows exactly what he’s doing. In fact, the desire to be intimate is not at all incidental. Our God already knows the future of our lives. He is working to have all things in your life come to be good and to His glory. His timing is always perfect. We need to trust in God’s providence. We need to trust that his purposes will come to pass in our lives.

“those who know your name will trust in you, for you, Lord have never forsaken those who seek you.” (Ps 9:10)

Thriving in that time of singleness happens by fixing our eyes on the One who has no sin. Look at Jesus as your source of joy, hope, purpose, and meaning. He is the only one who can give you what you really need.
These periods of singleness might be a waiting season, but it doesn’t need to be a wasted season. I wish I had figured this out sooner! I wish I had not wasted years trying to find my joy and purpose in someone who I just couldn’t seem to please! Many singles are discouraged and despondent, but guys (and girls I suppose, this advice on singleness carries into the feminine realm as well), don't have to be that way. There is so much joy, wisdom, treasure, memories, and experiences to be experienced while you can. So don’t waste this time, use it well for what will last!


He has made everything beautiful in its time.” (Ecc. 3:11)

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Tragic

Its so sad to wake up almost every morning nowadays and read about another shooting, another terrorist attack, and another life needlessly taken. Where is the love?!?! Love thy neighbor as thyself!!! We spend so much time worrying about OUR agenda and OUR pride and OUR hate that we forget to love someone else for who they are, whether we agree with them or not! Having differing opinions is fine! If we all just agreed on everything then how boring and meaningless would that be? We can disagree without shooting each other. We can Love each other without nasty tweets and racist slurs. A person is a person is a person. I am trying (and would encourage you as well) to adopt the "hate the sin not the sinner" mentality (or the "hate what made them this way, not they who are this way") We are supposed to be a lighthouse for those lost souls. Instead, most of us just kick them further down the rabbit hole...

Friday, September 7, 2018

WAR ROOM MOVIE YALLLLLL

If you haven't seen the movie, "War Room"... YOU NEED TO WATCH IT!!! lol It really shows God's glory (even if the movie is fiction...) You can truly find God anywhere! He gives us the strength to carry on.

Monday, September 3, 2018

We and the Trees

We and the trees are alike, don't you agree? 
We and the trees grow, 
Sway in the breeze
We both have our roots, 
We and the trees.
Do we not too fear the winter?
Don't we and the trees?
Fear that the cold will expose our branches for all people to see?
Others seem evergreen whilst we shiver in the cold winter breeze. 
Without leaves to protect us from their gaze, both we and the trees.
We stand together, as a forest, we and the trees, 
barren for all to see 
stuck out here in the cold winter breeze, 
we and the trees!
Exposed, we, as the forest, stand together  in the cold winter breeze. 
We, who await the promise of spring. 

Hopeful that it's warmth will bring back the cover of leaves, for both we and the trees.